Rather than blaming others, the world, or fate for their distress, healthy individuals accept a good deal of responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. They realise that they can control their thoughts and connected to that – their feelings and behaviour. It moves you from having a victim mentality to an empowered adult – someone who is able to think and act. It also means having an internal locus control versus an external locus of control. What this means is that instead of feeling that you are controlled by external factors in your environment, you take responsibility and realize you have control. You may not be able to choose everything that happens to you but you can choose how to react and what to do about it.